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NTGOAP: Mother's Mothers' Mothers

• Let's just go ahead and admit it: Mother's Day, Mothers' Day, Mothers Day, or whatever, is just a dumb holiday.

• I mean, if you have a great mom and you know it, does one day a year truly suffice to tell her so?

• If you are a great mom or even just have the delusion of being one, is one day all you need to have it said?

• Because I'm not too proud to say that I need it said every day.

•  l lied.

• I'm way too proud.

• Not because I think I'm that fantastic of a mother but because there's a smack of insincerity when it's dictated that "today is the day so I'm obligated to say that I appreciate my mom and all the ways she pours into me from then until now".

• And forever more.

• If you're the kind of moms that deserves a day of appreciation, it likely goes against every fiber in your being to accept it.

• Because that's not exactly what you're in it for.

• Let's say you've been a great mom to someone else's kid.

• THEN, you deserve a medal.

• When it's your own kid, you can't really even help yourself.

* You are selfless and amazing because you're made that way and even when you wish you could just stop it already with the worrying and fussing over and irrational guilt over the stuff you can't change or do a dang thing about and the ruined vacations because you won't shut up about the kids and let your husband have you to himself for once and the taking-it-upon-yourself-to-worry-over-the-significant-others of your babies as if they were your own and then worry because you spent too much time worrying about one and now the others might feel left out and please don't even get me started on the new generation of worry because that's too much but I can't-seem-to-stop-this-cycle-of-fretting-and-fussing like a crazy person.

• On the other hand, what's sweeter than motherhood and what deserves more than one day a year of celebration more than motherhood.

• But, let's be honest.

• This whole thing is nuts and we are, too, moms.

• If we are being true to the truth.

• The whole thing: Pregnancy (STRESS). Birth (OUCH). Infancy (YAWN). Toddlers to Teenagers (CRAZY-MAKING). It's a WILD ride.

• So, why do we do it?

• I say to young moms: God did not give you these baby humans because he had confidence that you knew what to do with them and how to best care for them (Case in point: POTTY-TRAINING).

• You are not that good of a person.

• He gave them to you because you need some growth and stretching and He was good enough to put you on the fast track.

• Can I please be done already with the growing and the stretching and the fast tracking part?

• Of course, I can't even help myself.

• Only God can help me now.

• And, then I got some well-timed yellow roses from the babiest of sons which doesn't hurt one bit in helping me remember that I am cherished and all is not lost and maybe I haven't blown the whole thing after all.

• So, I take it ALL back.

• Bring it, Mothers, Mothers', Mother's Day.

• You win.


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